A young brother and I once had an experience that well illustrates how trouble works. We were going to meeting one night. There was such a heavy fog that we could see only a few feet ahead of us. Suddenly there loomed before us what appeared to be a great giant. He came striding toward us through the fog with legs twenty feet long and body towering up out of sight. It was an awe-inspiring spectacle and at first sight startled us. There it was, coming right toward us in a most threatening manner. If we had been frightened and had run away we might have had a great story to tell, but we continued walking on toward it when suddenly we came face to face with one of our neighbors. He was only an ordinary-sized man, and there was nothing terrible about him, but he was carrying a lantern which swung partly behind him and as he walked threw that gigantic shadow forward into the fog. The giant that we saw was not the real man; it was only his shadow.
That is just the way trouble comes. The thing we see is not really the approaching trouble in its true size and shape; it is only the shadow of it that we see. Our imagination pictures it as something terrible, and we worry and live in its shadow for days and weeks only to find at last that we have been scared by a shadow and that the real trouble is only a fraction of what we supposed it would be.
When Alexander the Great was a youth, his father had a warhorse that no one could ride. The youthful prince made up his mind to conquer the animal. When he tried it, he discovered that the horse was afraid of its shadow, so he turned its head toward the sun and soon had it conquered. Let us learn a lesson from this, and when we become afraid of the shadows of trouble let us turn our faces toward the Sun of Righteousness thus leaving the shadows behind us.
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Another thing to learn is to submit the will and desires to God. When our plans fail we must submit to circumstances, whether we want to or not. If we rebel, that will not change the circumstances, but it will change our feelings. The more we rebel, the more we shall suffer. The way to get rid of the suffering is to get rid of the rebellion. We must submit; therefore, why not do it gracefully? Many times we cannot change circumstances, no matter how much we dislike them. Resentment will not hurt circumstances, but it will hurt us. We need to learn the lesson of submission without rebellion—submission to circumstances and to God.
The Lord is our Master. It is right for Him to order our lives as He sees best. Sometimes it is He who changes our plans for His own purpose, and when He does this the outcome is always better than the thing of our own choosing. If we rebel, we are rebelling against God, and right there lies the danger. If we are so determined to have our own way that we do not willingly submit to God’s way, He may have to let us suffer. But when we submit and commit our ways to Him, then we shall have the consolation and comfort of His Holy Spirit. If we will just learn to change a single letter in disappointment, and spell it with an “h” instead of a “d,” it will help take the sting out. Try it once. This is what we have: His appointment. Now, does not that make it quite different?
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If disappointment comes, it may be necessary for us to repress our feelings of dissatisfaction. If we begin pitying ourselves and saying, “Oh, it is too bad! it is just too bad!”, we shall only feel the more keenly the hurt, and the more we cultivate the habit of self-pity the more power it exercises over us. Some people have so yielded to the power of self-pity that whole days are darkened by little trifling disappointments, that they ought to throw off in a few minutes. Nine tenths of the suffering that comes from disappointment has its root in self-pity. You have better qualities in you; use them. When you are disappointed, take hold of yourself and say, “Here, you cannot afford to be miserable all day because of this.” Repress those feelings of self-pity, lift up your head, get your eyes on something else, begin making some new plans. Your old plans are like a broken dish, and you cannot use them any longer. All your fretting and brooding over them will not make them work out right. Take a new start; smile whether you feel like it or not. You have many other things to enjoy; do not let this one thing spoil them all. Refuse to think of your unpleasant feelings; resolutely shut the door against them. God will help you if you try.
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You have been disappointed, haven’t you? Of course you have, again and again. Does it hurt very much when things do not go as you have planned and hoped? People can bear disappointment; they seem to have learned the secret of taking off the keen edge so that it does not hurt so much. Have you learned that secret yet? There is more than one part to the secret. You may learn it if you will; you may get where you can bear disappointment and keep sweet all the time.
Many people prepare themselves to be disappointed; they arrange things so that they are certain to be disappointed. They set their heart so fully upon the thing they wish to have or do, whatever it may be, that they make no provision whatever, except to carry out their plans exactly as they have devised them. They do not provide for any contingencies that may arise. Their plans fill their whole horizon. They can see nothing else; they can think of nothing else; they want it just that way and no other way. Thus they prepare themselves to suffer keen disappointment should anything happen different from what they expect. This is what puts the sting in disappointment. Always make provision in your plans for whatever may happen. Always make your promises to yourself with the proviso, “If nothing prevents.” If you are going on a journey say, “If it does not rain, or if I am well, or if this or that does not prevent.” Keep the thought in your mind that something may prevent, and do not get it too much settled as a fact that you will do what you have planned. Take into consideration that you are a servant, not the master; do not forget to put it, “If the Lord wills.”
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If we realize we do not love some of the brethren as we should, let us cease looking at the unlovely things and look for the good things, the noble qualities. Seek out these things, keep them before the mind, overlook the faults and failings and unlovely traits. Begin to show special kindness, make it a point to speak to these brethren kindly, show an interest in them. Watch for a chance to do something helpful; go out of your way to do them favors. Possibly your own coldness has much to do with their attitude and feelings. Be as genial and sunshiny toward them as you are toward your closest friends. Some reserved natures need sunshine to open them up, just as do some flowers. Have you not seen flowers open up in the sunshine and throw their fragrance upon the breezes, and then as a heavy cloud suddenly overspread the sky and the dark shadows fell, quickly close up? It is just that way with some natures. If we radiate sunshine, they unfold their beauties to us, but if we are cold and distant, we are permitted to see only the rough exterior. Love begets love. If we so act that love in us may grow and develop, we shall be loved in return.
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I have been asked if we should love all saints the same. Some have even taught that if we were right in our souls we would love one of God’s children as much as another. This, however, is not possible. Even Jesus loved some of His disciples more than others. There were three–James, Peter and John—who were closer to Him than the others and of these John was most beloved. He calls himself, “That disciple whom Jesus loved.” If love for the brethren depended solely on spiritual things, then possibly we might love all the same, but it depends to a great extent on other things as well. Jesus loved John much because of John’s loving nature. We love those most who seem to us most lovable. We are drawn most to those whose dispositions and characters and interests appeal most strongly to us. There are those who are saved who, because of their faults and unlovely dispositions, repel us rather than attract us. We will not find ourselves drawn into the same close relations with them as with the others. There is a danger of a twofold nature. On the one hand, we are liable to love some so much that we become partial towards them to such an extent that others will feel that we do not value them as we should. On the other hand, there is danger of looking at the unlovely qualities in another until we lose sight of the good that is in him and grow prejudiced against him, until it becomes hard to feel the proper love for him.
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There are very many things that may choke out love in the home. One of these is the lack of kindness. If you have grown less kind in your feelings, in your actions and in your words, love cannot thrive. Kindness is one of the best fertilizers for love. Do you show the same consideration for the feelings and tastes of your companion as you used to show? There are so many people who have two sets of tones in which to speak and two sets of manners in which they act. They have their company manners and their family manners. When they have company the voice is soft and pleasant, the manners are agreeable and kindly. They treat their friends with the greatest consideration but as soon as their friends are gone the pleasant voice changes into crossness or harshness and faultfinding, and the pleasantness of manner disappears. In how many homes is this true! The greater consideration and the greater kindness is due the home folks. Otherwise love cannot flourish. If you wish to have love for your home folks, you must show them the consideration that is due them.
Some professors of religion are like the catbird. When it is away from its nest, it is one of the sweetest of the northern warblers, and so it is often called the northern mockingbird, but when it is close to its nest you will hear only a harsh, discordant note. It has no sweetness in its voice while at its nest. Some people reserve all their kindness, tenderness and sweetness for those outside the family circle. Is it any wonder that love dies in such a home? If you realize you do not love someone enough, begin to consider his desires. Begin to show a special interest in him. Watch for opportunities to be kind to him. Try especially to be agreeable, and you will soon find that this reacts upon yourself; in a short time you will find your love increasing, and the more you follow this course, the more your love will increase.
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Love is the greatest thing in earth or heaven. Out of it flows most of the things that are worthwhile in life. There is no heart so empty as the heart that is without love. There is no life so joyful as the love-filled life. Love puts a song in the heart, a sparkle in the eye, a smile on the lips and makes the whole being glad. And God’s love is greater than all else. He who has God’s love has a continual feast. There may be sorrow and care and suffering in the life, but if there is love it lightens all these.
Sometimes there is not the love for the relatives that there ought to be. Sometimes there is not the love for the brethren that should characterize us. When we realize this and feel our lack, the question naturally arises, “How can my love for them be increased?” Plants cannot grow without fertility, that is, the soil must contain the elements necessary to growth. If these are absent they must be supplied, or there can be no harvest. This is equally true of love; it must be fertilized if it is to grow.
Love cannot survive carelessness, indifference and neglect. These things are poison to the tender plant. We can easily kill the love in our hearts, or we can cultivate and increase it till its blossoms and fragrance are the delight of our lives. If your love is not what it ought to be, try fertilizing it with kindness, gentleness and self-sacrifice, and take away the weeds of selfishness, carelessness and indifference. You will find that love will grow and increase and become sweeter and more tender with the passing days.
Heart Talks by C.W. Naylor
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